Thursday, 24 September 2015

How Your Surroundings Can Limit The Speed Of Change Even If You Want To Change.

It is natural and should be a common need for people to want change from certain systems. Systems that are aged, boring and inefficient. One philosopher once wrote, ‘human race has this great speed of change for they have brought civilization in such a short period of time’. Yes we are known for innovation; actually change/civilization is what separates us from ordinary living things.
When we are born we don’t have the ability to choose families to belong to. Along with that, being Africans, we have a limited capacity to choose the kind of people we want to be as we live our lives from birth. The surrounding conditions and the close-grooming people do that for us. However the course has to change as we grow up, we’ve got to take responsibility and own up. We’ve got to make radical decisions and decide upon what we want to be and work in that direction. This is why I’m penning about #change in this article….
Almost ninety percent of the world’s population needs to change today. About sixty percent of these are conscious of this but only less than a tenth is effecting this change. What’s disappointing is; in this tenth, about 3 quarters will soon quit and so, about 3% is changing. Why? We wonder.
Change is difficult to implement because people around us continue to condemn it so loudly that it’s the only sound we can hear. We have all tried changing in some way and most of us can recall the images of the laughter, mockery and rebukes from our peers, teachers, leaders or parents. It’s frustrating; it’s demotivating and saps the energy and inspiration for change.
This was until I sat to give it a thought – why so much criticism?! You know what I found? Once you know it and believe it, you can make change a possibility opening grand doors to dreaming and living your own life instead of following a predesigned or predetermined and predictable life. It’s boring and unfulfilling – no wonder why there are so many complaints in today’s impromptu conversations…Let’s change that too folks, we can. Here’s what I discovered in my little research….

1.   Change Threatens Them - Insecurity
People in your surroundings are intimidated by change. They fear for their current positions or roles in your life. I remember changing from a habit of mocking girls which I used to do with my peers. My friends didn’t like it and began to point that I was having a holier than thou attitude and that was not okay with them. For someone I would have feared rejection and gave in.
     You know, coming up with ideas of change sounds like termination of friendship contract…it is like you are soon going to fire them out of your life and they don’t want that. They think of how they’ll have to upgrade themselves or requalify themselves to the new you. People around you normally find that to be a very painful process. So they criticize you to make sure they still have a VIP passengers’ seat in your life. Don’t let this stop you from becoming the best of yourself when you can, such people will continue to be there in life.

2.   They think you can’t pull it off – Lack of Faith
Some can be very overprotective. They possess a little faith and will do what they can to make sure you are not frustrated when you fail. They just don’t believe you can change. They may not know you that much…such are almost, if not the same with those that…..

3.   Do not understand the necessity for some change
They’re people who are so #complacent with the status quo and so they think you too must be satisfied with what’s around otherwise you will risk everything you have now. Like the former, they will pull all the resources at their disposal just to stop you from changing. Even though I may not really say how, I’m a victim of this since I was 18. I know how it feels like…I’ve seen them celebrating – smiling effortlessly from ear to ear when I succeed in #means_goals. This and the former reason call for the need to work on giving them the big/clear picture or ignore their efforts.
Folks, there will never be a time when there is no criticism. You even doubt yourself when you decide to take the plunge. Change now! One mentor of mine, #Godknows_Mburuma always say “we are different; my dreams are not their dreams, my gifts are not theirs so I understand them when they don’t buy my views” Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is too late, oh and is a mystery. You are going to wish you had taken the first step before then – you would not want that. Today is all you have…seize the opportunity – make history and build a legacy!

48 Incredible Quotes From As A Man Thinketh

o   By the right choice and true application of thought, man ascends to the Divine Perfection; by the abuse and wrong application of thought, he descends below the level of the beast. Between these two extremes are all the grades of character, and man is their maker and master.

o   As a being of Power, Intelligence, and Love, and the Lord of his own thoughts, man holds the key to every situation, and contains within himself that transforming and regenerative agency by which he may make himself what he wills.

o   A man's mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.

o   Just as a gardener cultivates his plot, keeping it free from weeds, and growing the flowers and fruits which he requires, so may a man tend the garden of his mind, weeding out all the wrong, useless, and impure thoughts, and cultivating toward perfection the flowers and fruits of right, useful, and pure thoughts.

o   Every man is where he is by the law of his being; the thoughts which he has built into his character have brought him there, and in the arrangement of his life there is no element of chance, but all is the result of a law which cannot err. This is just as true of those who feel "out of harmony" with their surroundings as of those who are contented with them.

o   As the progressive and evolving being, man is where he is that he may learn that he may grow; and as he learns the spiritual lesson which any circumstance contains for him, it passes away and gives place to other circumstances.

o   Man is buffeted by circumstances so long as he believes himself to be the creature of outside conditions, but when he realizes that he is a creative power, and that he may command the hidden soil and seeds of his being out of which circumstances grow, he then becomes the rightful master of himself.

o   Every thought-seed sown or allowed to fall into the mind, and to take root there, produces its own, blossoming sooner or later into act, and bearing its own fruitage of opportunity and circumstances. Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.

o   Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself.

o   Man is manacled only by himself. Thought and action are the jailers of Fate - they imprison, being base; they are also the angels of Freedom - they liberate, being noble.

o   That cause may take the form of a conscious vice or an unconscious weakness; but whatever it is, it stubbornly retards the efforts of its possessor, and thus calls aloud for remedy.

o   The man who does not shrink from self-crucifixion can never fail to accomplish the object upon which his heart is set.

o   It is pleasing to human vanity to believe that one suffers because of one's virtue; but not until a man has extirpated every sickly, bitter, and impure thought from his mind, and washed every sinful stain from his soul, can he be in a position to know and declare that his sufferings are the result of his good, and not of his bad qualities; and on the way to that supreme perfection, he will have found working in his mind and life, the Great Law which is absolutely just, and which cannot give good for evil, evil for good. Possessed of such knowledge, he will then know, looking back upon his past ignorance and blindness, that his life is, and always was, justly ordered, and that all his past experiences, good and bad, were the equitable outworking of his evolving, yet unevolved self.

o   The sole and supreme use of suffering is to purify, to burn out all that is useless and impure. There could be not object in burning gold after the dross had been removed, and a perfectly pure and enlightened being could not suffer.

o   The circumstances which a man encounters with suffering are the result of his own mental inharmony. The circumstances which a man encounters with blessedness are the result of his own mental harmony. Blessedness, not material possessions, is the measure of right thought; wretchedness, not lack of material possessions, is the measure of wrong thought.

o   Men imagine that thought can be kept secret, but it cannot; it rapidly crystallizes into habit, and habit solidifies into circumstance.

o   A particular train of thought persisted in, be it good or bad, cannot fail to produce its results on the character and circumstances.

o   A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances.

o   Nature helps every man to the gratification of the thoughts which he most encourages, and opportunities are presented which will most speedily bring to the surface both the good and evil thoughts.

o   The world is your kaleidoscope, and the varying combinations of colors which at every succeeding moment it presents to you are the exquisitely adjusted pictures of your ever-moving thoughts.

o   The body is the servant of the mind. It obeys the operations of the mind, whether they be deliberately chosen or automatically expressed.

o   Thought is the fount of action, life and manifestation; make the fountain pure, and all will be pure.

o   Thoughts of malice, envy, disappointment, despondency, rob the body of its health and grace. A sour face does not come by chance; it is made by sour thoughts. Wrinkles that mar are drawn by folly, passion, pride.

o   As you cannot have a sweet and wholesome abode unless you admit the air and sunshine freely into your rooms, so a strong body and a bright, happy, or serene countenance can only result from the free admittance into the mind of thoughts of joy and good will and serenity.

o   To live continually in thoughts of ill-will, cynicism, suspicion, and envy, is to be confined in a self-made prison-hole.

o   But to think well of all, to be cheerful with all, and to patiently learn to find the good in all - such unselfish thoughts are the very portals of heaven; and to dwell day by day in thoughts of peace toward every creature will bring abounding peace to their possessor.

o   Aimlessness is a vice, and such drifting must not continue for him who would steer clear of catastrophe and destruction.

o   They who have no central purpose in their life fall an easy prey to petty worries, fears, troubles, and self-pitying, all of which lead, just as surely as deliberately planned sins (though by a different route), to failure, unhappiness, and loss, for weakness cannot persist in a power-evolving universe.

o   To put away aimlessness and weakness, and to begin to think with purpose, is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment; who make all conditions serve them, and who think strongly, attempt fearlessly, and accomplish masterfully.

o   He who has conquered doubt and fear has conquered failure.

o   All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.
o   The truth is that oppressor and slave are co-operators in ignorance, and, while seeming to afflict each other, are in reality afflicting themselves.

o   He who has conquered weakness, and has put away all selfish thoughts, belongs neither to oppressor nor oppressed. He is free.

o   A man can only rise, conquer, and achieve by lifting up his thoughts. He can only remain weak, and abject, and miserable by refusing to lift up his thoughts.

o   A man whose first thought is bestial indulgence could neither think clearly nor plan methodically; he could not find and develop his latent resources, and would fail in any undertaking. Not having commenced manfully to control his thoughts, he is not in a position to control affairs and to adopt serious responsibilities. He is not fit to act independently and stand alone. But he is limited only by the thoughts which he chooses.

o   Achievement, of whatever kind, is the crown of effort, the diadem of thought.

o   Victories attained by right thought can only be maintained by watchfulness. Many give way when success is assured, and rapidly fall back into failure.

o   All achievements, whether in the business, intellectual, or spiritual world, are the result of definitely directed thought, are governed by the same law and are of the same method; the only difference lies in the object of attainment.

o   The dreamers are the saviors of the world.

o   To desire is to obtain; to aspire is to achieve.

o   Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your Vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your Ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.

o   The greatest achievement was at first and for a time a dream.

o   Dreams are the seedlings of realities.

o   In all human affairs there are efforts, and there are results, and the strength of the effort is the measure of the result. Chance is not. "Gifts," powers, material, intellectual, and spiritual possessions are the fruits of effort; they are thoughts completed, objects accomplished, visions realized.

o   The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good.

o   Yes, humanity surges with uncontrolled passion, is tumultuous with ungoverned grief, is blown about by anxiety and doubt.

o   Only the wise man, only he whose thoughts are controlled and purified, makes the winds and the storms of the soul obey him.

o   In the ocean of life the isles of Blessedness are smiling, and the sunny shore of your ideal awaits your coming. Keep your hand firmly upon the helm of thought. In the barque[core] of your soul reclines the commanding Master; He does but sleep; wake Him. Self-control is strength; Right Thought is mastery; Calmness is power. Say unto your heart, "Peace, be still!"